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A homemaker is typically a married woman who works full-time to create a welcoming home life for her husband and children. Homemakers traditionally do not work outside of the home for monetary compensation. Instead, homemakers consider their homemaking duties their full-time career. Before the 1960’s, homemaking was the norm for wives and mothers. However, by the late 1960’s and early 1970’s, many women were entering the workforce and learning how to juggle their newfound careers with their husbands and children. Many Christians today continue to maintain that a wife and mother should not work outside of the home. Because of this, this article will explore what the Bible really teaches us about a woman’s role as a homemaker.
Firstly, it is vital to note that, when the Bible was penned all those thousands of years ago, women had very few employment options outside of the home. It was assumed that, when a woman married, her sole focus would be on keeping house, bearing and raising children, as well also being a helper her husband (Genesis 2:18; Titus 2:4-5). Life was far more difficult before modern conveniences, and simply running a household was so much more than just a 9-5 job. Many women whose husbands could afford to pay for it had maidservants (Genesis 16:3; 29:24, 29; 2 Kings 5:2). Others trained daughters to help as soon as they were old enough, just as sons were apprenticed by their fathers and grandfathers in the family business.
Nevertheless, the point is that homemaking was the expected lifestyle for women in Bible times should not be construed to mean that it is the only option for wives and mothers in the 21st century. Even in Bible times, some women pursued business ventures. Lydia is a prime example (Acts 16:14). She was regarded as a “seller of purple,” which was a very lucrative business
Luke 8:3 mentions several women who followed Jesus and supported Him financially from their own means.. This could imply that they had sources of income separate from their husbands. Matthew 27:55 also mentions that some women who were present at His crucifixion and followed Him from Galilee” to minister to His needs. This appears to indicate that, even in Bible times, women could be both homemakers and economically independent, free to follow an itinerant Preacher from city to city, supporting themselves by their own funds.
The Proverbs 31 woman
Christian homemaking is far more than merely “staying at home.” Some women who do not wish to work outside of the home do not work inside the home either. They park the kids in front of the TV and pursue their own interests all day. The husband comes home to a filthy house, unwashed laundry, kids eating chips off the floor, and mom on the phone with scrolling through Facebook. That is not homemaking; that is non-working (see 1 Timothy 5:8).
Homemaking is exactly as it sounds: making a home. A comfortably pleasant, clean, well-run home does not happen by itself. Good homemakers consider the state of their homes and families to be their responsibility. A Christian homemaker considers it her highest calling to take care of her home and family, so she has chosen to set aside her own dreams and career goals while the children are young. The cabinets are well-stocked because she thought ahead and bought on sale. The clothes are actually washed and pressed regularly so no one has to fear finding nothing to wear. Meals are planned so that the family is able to eat together whenever possible. School projects are checked, and children have what they need since she has stayed on top of things. Her husband is able to focus fully on his job as the sole breadwinner because his wife is actually taking care of everything else. Homemakers wear many hats: doctor, nurse, plumber, chef, chauffeur, teacher, carpenter, repairman, painter, counselor, maid, and researcher. Christian homemaking often includes spiritual advisor and even homeschool teacher.
Biblical homemaking is what happens when a wife and mother makes her home and family her top priority. Her time, effort, and finances reflect her concern for her family. She has set aside other full-time ventures to dedicate her attention to her husband and children and husband. Homemaking can also be a season in a woman’s life that prepares her for another career or perhaps even ministry when her children leave home. If she has been faithful in her first career, God will often entrust her with a broader outreach (see Luke 16:10). As an older woman, a former homemaker has much to offer younger women and can continue to glorify God by sharing her experience and wisdom.
While divorce and widowhood make full-time homemaking impossible for many women, married couples would be wise to reconsider the assumption that both spouses must work full-time when children are young. Both husbands and wives should value homemaking the way Scripture does (1 Timothy 5:14; Titus 2:5). If at all possible, when children are young, parents should make whatever sacrifices necessary to allow at least one of them to make homemaking the priority. Christian homemakers are actually in a far better position to follow the instruction of Deuteronomy 6:5-9 than mothers who must be away from their children the majority of the time. At home, a mother is able to seize teachable moments and model a lifestyle of godliness in daily living. The lessons she learns during those years of full-time homemaking will serve her well in the future as she shares those lessons with younger parents trying to make decisions about raising their children.
While it appears from Scripture that homemaking should be a top priority for married mothers, there is no condemnation implied for those whose circumstances do not allow for full-time homemaking. Rising financial pressures have made it nearly impossible for some families to survive on one income, so, even when a mother would love to be a full-time homemaker, she may find it necessary to create an additional|an extra source of income. Homemaking can still be her priority, nonetheless, and she can demonstrate that by eliminating extra time-gobblers such as dinners with coworkers, or “girls’ night out” each week, or perhaps accepting invitations to events without her children.
When her time to parent already so limited, an employed woman committed to homemaking will seize each and every opportunity to interact with her family, even at personal cost. She will gladly take a child|a kid to the gym with her, take another to the grocery store, and forego fancy dinners in order to have more time to unwind with her husband. Employed homemakers work doubly hard to ensure that their families do not feel as they have slipped on her list of priorities. Some people have even taken a leap of faith and quit their jobs, believing that God had called them to be home with their children. Women called to homemaking will stretch the budget and eliminate extras in order to be able to provide for their families much more than money could ever buy. When God calls us to do something, He provides us with what we need (Philippians 4:19). Like every other career path, Christians must seek the Lord’s plan in deciding whether full-time homemaking is His path for them.